Although we may not want to admit it, most of us have some kind of resistance to owning our truth, power and joy. In spite of our striving, we often settle for far less and become comfortable with good enough. However, as a collective, we are opening to deeper parts of ourselves than ever before.
Globally and individually, we are discovering there are significant consequences to whether we choose to reject or accept ourselves. With rejection, we experience blocks, depression, feelings of worthlessness, confusion and a general emptiness in our lives, and our actions reflect even the most subtlest of our rejections. Aligning with authenticity, self-empowerment and joy, on the other hand, drives our actions to support a promising world and meaningful lives.
In centuries past, living with mediocrity was accepted as status quo with only a minority seeking and cultivating truly fulfilling lives. Rejection of self and joy was considered humble, and even holy, while power was limited to a select few who usually misused it. Unfortunately, some of these limiting patterns are deeply embedded in our consciousness.
Thankfully though, as we've evolved, not only have we recognized that the individual has worth, we've deemed the pursuit of happiness to be a fundamental right, as is personal empowerment. Yet, declaring such values and living them may not always go hand in hand. With financial demands, social constraints, and a plethora of obligations, we often find ourselves unconsciously disconnected from our truth, power and joy even when we believe we are pursuing them. As we navigate our way through the bombardment of have-to’s, limiting rules and beliefs, and our occasional bouts of unworthiness, we may find ourselves living within the confines of partial-truth, just-enough-empowerment, and semi-joy. Yet, our soul’s tolerance for mere survival and unsatisfactory living has reached its limit.
As conscious individuals, we came here to enlighten the world and mediocrity is no longer an option.
Our personal disappointments, whether or not we believe we’ve contributed to them, stem from our rejection of, or misalignment with, our essential truth, power and joy. Fortunately, since we have been collectively resisting who we are and are now ready to awaken and realign with our true nature, millions of people are seeking ways to heal these misperceptions, and various tools have become available to us.
As practical individuals, many of us benefit from step-by-step guidance or outside assistance to overcome our obstacles. Yet, as we embark on this journey to connect with our essence, we will increasingly experience the layers, dimensions, and formlessness of our souls, as well as our perceived obstacles. We will see, and perhaps appreciate, the multifaceted complexity we face. We can let this overwhelm or stop us from clearing old patterns and realigning with our core, or we can delight in awe over the incredible interplay of spirit and matter.
The complexity of our soul, as well as the issues we face, are indications of our incredible nature.
If we think of our blocks as protective veils that have been put into place by our higher selves to preserve us for grander times, it helps dissolve the shame and blame that our egos might want to seize and use against us. We can recognize the forces our spirit had to employ to make us believe we are anything less than holy. As well, we can use those same forces to release this fundamental misconception. In reality, our veils are as thin as light and can be released at any time.
For a moment, let’s look at the basic ways we avoid – consciously or not – our truth, power or joy:
Fortunately, it really can be that simple! Acknowledging your challenges, opening to their gifts and offering them Love are the simplest ways to integrate your truth, power and joy. Whether you choose to seek support from another person, find resources to guide you, or take an individual approach, it is important to incorporate Love.
Not necessarily easy or instant, the bottom line is that pure, unconditional Love changes everything.
Are you ready to let Love help you align with your Truth, Power and Joy?
You can take these suggestions in and contemplate them over a period of days or weeks, or focus your attention on one area of your life and use them as the foundation of a dedicated processing session you offer yourself:
Recognize your essence is Truth, Power and Joy. Though your ego may forget, or your circumstances may look otherwise, you are Divine, Perfect Love – right now and always… and in all ways – and are simply experiencing the interesting parameters of being human.
Observe your “shortcomings” with neutrality. Whether you feel inadequate, are frustrated with a particular area of your life, or have come across a confusing obstacle, learn to sit and be with the situation, including your feelings about it, with neutral wonder. Become aware of the obstacle. Observe it. Feel what comes up for you. Notice and allow.
Look deeper. Open yourself to exploring the “whys” beneath the surface. Were you shamed as a child? Does having power frighten you? Do you feel guilty when you’re happy? As you discover the obstacles, ask, “Why is this here? What do I have to gain from this?” Explore your questions with wonder.
Hold space for your revelations. You don’t need to chase your “whys” down a rabbit hole, but once you discover the underlying causes, again sit with them. Allow them to expand, feel into the stories and concerns, let them become a tsunami and wash over you. Feel, watch, and allow your issues to become as deep and expansive as your soul. Stay with your experience for as long as you can.
Imagine yourself as an infinite energy field of Love. Imagine moving freely through the universe – the movement of formlessness. Now notice an impulse. It is curious. You feel its pull into more curiosity. You follow the curiosity and begin to sense form. Another impulse of wonder and the pull toward form grows stronger.
As expressions of infinite Love energy, we are powerful beyond measure. Our Divine creation is both miraculous and exquisite. Miraculous because, as humans, we are filled with wonder about our being, our world and the universe, as if they are mysteries. Exquisite because at a cosmic level we know everything is in perfect order.
When we reconnect with the truth of being Divine Love energy experiencing form and consciousness, we open the door to the magnitude of our true power.
For thousands of years humanity has experienced countless examples of power and powerlessness. Playing out the polarities has become an addictive game of “good vs. evil.” Erroneous beliefs and endless abuses associated with power are passed down from one generation to the next, and our sense of power has become so shaded that we not only misunderstand it, we fear it.
At one end, we identify power with oppression and abuse and don’t want anything to do with it. At the other end, we have a clear sense of our incredible power, but are afraid it is too much for us or the world to handle. We worry that we will either hurt others or lose relationships if we step into our power.
Whether our fears about power stem from our life’s experiences, our collective beliefs, or are lodged deep in our cellular memories, in order to become completely free – including giving ourselves permission to live in unbounded joy – we must release our fears and align with our power.
Though it takes courage to face and transmute our fears, it takes an open and willing heart to reclaim our power with integrity. For some people, courage comes easily; they are natural warriors ready to take on any challenge with fervor. Yet, it is the open and willing heart which guides our authentic selves to emerge, and allows us to embrace our innate power with Love Consciousness.
Interestingly enough, pure freedom and joy may not sound so tantalizing to some. “Why ask for more when I have relative independence and suitable contentment? After all, I’m not miserable.” Many may not even believe in complete freedom or unbounded bliss, or perhaps they struggle with feelings of unworthiness.
Where do you stand? Are you centered firmly in your powerful self, living freely and joyfully?
We may feel fine and dandy basking in the warmth of tolerable with our very long tethers, but for many walking a spiritual path, the wisdom of our soul is now reminding us of the sacred agreements we made before birth.
As conscious individuals, we came here to enlighten the world and mediocrity is no longer an option.
We cannot raise our own frequency, the vibration of the planet or realize heaven on earth if we continue to squelch our inherent power which limits our joy. Our own restrictions will continue to tighten around us until we suffocate under their constraint or emerge into our true, powerful selves.
Though we are always at free will, our souls are hard-wired for expansion. We can slow down our progress, if we choose, but that can become a painful illusion. Whether our life force is depleted quietly, or our rug gets pulled out from beneath us, it is hard to ignore the urging of our soul to evolve and get back on course. Like our own birth, there comes a point when a process is impossible to stop.
Regardless of due dates, suppressive drugs, or the availability of doctors, your birth was inevitable; your powerful will to be born was not prevented. You are here, now, and reading this for a reason.
Are there any parts of your life to which you feel bound? Where in your life have you settled? Are you still withholding your gifts – or the amazing you – from the world?
Likely you are confident and generally happy, have loved ones in your life, enjoy your spiritual awareness and insights, and have harnessed a few fabulous gifts. What is also very likely is that you grapple with substandard compromises to which you feel obliged, habitually crash into resistant walls you’ve built, or experience ongoing frustrations or apathy about a particular area of your life. Perhaps you’ve closed the door on a dream.
From your powerful spiritual essence to the will of your incarnation to the incredible gifts and consciousness you embody to the dreams dancing around the edge of your comfort zone, you are well on your way to full empowerment. It is now time to walk through the door and reclaim all of your power – unequivocally and without apology.
Envision your life through the eyes of Love. Scan your health, money, relationships, work... Do you feel fully empowered? Do each of these areas resonate with joy? Is there something you wish to change or refine? Observe and notice with as much neutrality as possible.
In what ways, subtle or obvious, do you relinquish your power?
Reclaiming all of our power has many implications. First, by understanding what true power is and releasing false beliefs, we restore its essence within our own consciousness as well as the collective. By viewing power with a new perspective, we can let go of our resistance to aligning with it. Consciously connecting to our Source of power helps us stay energized and clear, and we learn to trust our guidance. We learn to make peace with ourselves and become less critical. Owning our power allows us to recognize our choices, take responsibility, and direct our energy to manifest the life and world we want. Our creativity grows exponentially, bringing more joy to our lives and the lives of others. By reclaiming all of our power, we anchor its pure frequency into the planet and become a living example of integrated love, power and joy.
Take a moment to breathe in integrated love, power and joy. Feel it resonating through your whole body. As it moves within you, let it expand and encompass you. Feel the ecstasy of this magnificent field growing, touching and blessing the lives around you. Now imagine this field surrounding the planet. Watch it anchor deeply into Mother Earth. Breathe in the Oneness of All That Is in Love-Power-Joy Consciousness.
As time speeds ahead and the Universe continues to form our new earth with energetic waves of loving support, perhaps now is the perfect time to reclaim all of your powerful you.
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In my practice, I find, again and again, a pattern in which “doing the right thing” and “doing what we are supposed to do” can lead to a big, hard wall.
From the time we are small children we are taught rules. They help form us, keep us safe and even “on the right track.” Rules attempt to create order out of chaos. Or, perhaps prevent perceived possible problems (say THAT five times!).
Yet, what I am noticing is how many people, especially women, have spent their entire lives following “the rules” and doing everything “right” only to come crashing into the hard, cold wall of misery. Okay, some haven’t hit misery yet; some are scraping alongside discontentment. Either way, they are discovering that although they have done everything by “the book” and have followed the “rules”, life hasn’t necessarily rewarded them with their dreams or even Joy.
Why not? They wonder, “What have I done wrong?”
Nothing. They haven’t done anything wrong, and life isn’t what they wanted or expected it to be.
I remember when I first began working as an Interior Designer at a large architectural firm in Sacramento; I was fresh out of UC Davis and my internship had turned into a real job. Before long, I was calling my mom in tears about all the “unfairness” of office politics. She shared with me information from a book she had read which noted how girls are taught that if they behave like a “good girl” and “do what they’re supposed to do” then they can expect to get “good grades” (which they then translate into rewards, promotions, etc.). Boys, on the other hand, are taught that they should do “whatever it takes to win the game” (i.e. cheat, if necessary!). Thus, the moral of the book – and my mom’s advice, it seemed – was to “toughen up” and “learn how to play the game.”
I never really liked sports, I never read the book, and I never learned how to play office politics. I believed, and wanted to believe, in “doing the right thing.”
So why is this pattern emerging? Why is it that when people do “what they are supposed to do” to create their lives they aren’t finding happiness?
To address this question, I’d like to take a giant step back – okay, some of you may need to take two or three giant steps back – in order to have a greater perspective.
As we move from duality to Oneness, we are finding blurry lines everywhere, including that line between “right” and “wrong.” In the example above, about living and creating our lives, people have spent much of their time doing what is “right” according to a belief system that may be completely “wrong” for them as individuals. They go to college, get a degree in something they enjoy and/or offers great earning potential, get married, and so on, because they believe it’s what they are supposed to do in order to be happy. Yet, even for those who wanted all these things, Life has seemingly pushed them up against this same, hard wall! Why is that?
I have said this many times: It is our BIRTHRIGHT to live in Joy!
That wall of misery and discontent only asks us to seek out our birthright; to ask ourselves, “What truly brings me Joy?” And, more specifically, “What is it that I – on a Soul level – want to bring to the world and do?”
Many of us, however, don’t give ourselves permission to ask such questions, let alone seek their answers. Instead, we follow our parents’, society’s and other’s rules which we have completely bought in to and now own – pink slip, and all!
Once, a client asked a question that had something to do with her marriage and her happiness. When I acknowledged her deep misery, her response was, “My husband is very old and he will probably die much sooner than me.” In that moment I saw how completely bound she was to the “rule” about what it meant to be a “good wife.” She had a similar question about her job, but was just as clear that she was “doing the right thing” because, as she noted, in another ten years she’d have her retirement.
Another “rule” we believe is, “If I do what is ‘right’ for me, then it may not be for the good of all.”Interesting belief! If what the Universe wants for you is to remember that you ARE Joy, and is urging you to step into that place, then why would becoming more of who you are and acting accordingly be harmful to yourself, others or the planet?
As perfectly human beings, we have done nothing wrong by following these rules we were given. We can continue to do nothing wrong – or better yet, we can stop perceiving that we ever DO anything wrong. We can stop judging ourselves and get there is no “wrong” and therefore no “right.”
Stepping away from the belief in “right” and “wrong” allows us to observe our “rules” and recognize that we always have, and thus make, choices. We can continue to stay in marriages and jobs that make us miserable, or we can decide to make other choices. It can be empowering to release our rules; it can also be frightening. Like a cage, these rules are the bars that keep us contained. They can make us feel trapped and they can make us feel safe. Acknowledging the rules we have set for ourselves is the first step toward loosening the bars on our cage. Perhaps removing, or even softening, a few of them will help us breathe a little easier.
What do the bars of your cage look like? How free do you want to be? Are you afraid that you would harm someone if you were let out of your cage?
Perhaps you are afraid of your power.
At this time of awakening we are being asked to bring forth our power; to reach deep within ourselves to discover, and hence bring forth, our magic and our gifts. When what we thought we wanted isn’t bringing us Joy, or even manifesting, we can choose to let that hard, cold wall of misery stop us. We can also choose to rest, gather our composure, and look beyond it.
Have you hit any walls lately? If so, are the walls of misery or discontent asking you to call forth your deepest dreams, desires and gifts? Do you dare reach that deep into your Soul? Do you dare not?
If you thought you were moving toward what you wanted, and it still is not working, I believe it is because the Universe wants so much more for you than you can imagine! Our little minds and egos cannot comprehend our own Grandness or the Joy that lies within us. How do we discover this Grandness and Joy?
To begin with, I invite you to move from Form to Formlessness; to allow yourself to soften your rules, structure and rigidity so you can discover the possibilities that lie within your creativity, emptiness and potential. I invite you to rest, breathe, meditate, just be, and – lo and behold – break as many of your rules as possible! And, finally, I invite you to trust. Trust that you don’t even need to “know” what your gifts are; you simply need to call upon them to emerge and create a safe space for them to materialize.
I surely don’t want to write about fear… I’m too afraid! Geez, what do I have to say about this topic, since, I too am constantly trying to avoid fear?! “Surrender,” I hear, as I begin to write…
As human beings we are hexed with fears! By agreeing to incarnate on Earth, we took on this thing called fear. It has been said that FEAR stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” This is fine and dandy when we are talking about monsters under our beds, but what about those REALLY Real fears?
What about Reality?! War! Bankruptcy! Injustices! Betrayals! Survival!
I don’t have a television, nor do I read any newspapers, or listen to the radio long enough to hear about happenings in the real world – thank goodness! Am I uninformed? Probably. Am I in denial? Maybe. Is this disconnection from 3-D reality a bad thing? No – at least not for me.
My primary reason for not staying connected to the world through the media is because of fear! Yes, I am afraid of what is happening in our world, and I am certainly not interested in having my fears amplified with media influences. I have plenty of pesky fears gnawing around my own house, thank you!
So what do I do to cope with my fears, great and small?
Empowerment, detachment and surrender are keys to releasing this human experience known as fear.
Empowerment can come in many forms. When we recognized where we have power and take action accordingly, we can alleviate some of our fears. For some people, media news gives them a sense of what is happening in our world, empowering them with information. Many people are motivated to create changes; perhaps politically, monetarily or through service.
Personally, I empower myself by NOT receiving information about the world through the media. I best function and stay empowered by maintaining my connection to the “Higher Realms” through my spirituality. Politically and financially, I support areas that align with my beliefs and pocketbook. In terms of service, I love to empower others, including my four children, so they can live more joyfully and have positive influences in our world.
Clearly, there isn’t one “right” way to empower ourselves, yet it is beneficial to come from a place of Love rather than fear. When we act out of fear, we align ourselves with denser energies (you know, the “lower realms”).
Sometimes it can be hard for us to discern when our acts come from Love or fear. Do I care for my family out of Love or protect them out of fear? Likely, we do both. Personal love – for our family, the earth, ourselves – is a more positive impetus than fear. Yet, when we address our fears from a place of personal love, our attachment seeks a desired outcome. Generally speaking, we want to remove the “problem” because we believe it is causing our fears! We can spend a lifetime trying to eliminate our fears through this method.
Love with detachment – a.k.a. Unconditional Love – enables us to live fearlessly in spite of our problems. Through the eyes of detachment we can see a greater picture. This empowers us to remove the hook from our personal agenda and simply witness What Is. Some of us experience this in small instances at unpredictable moments (then, of course, we want to hold on to it!). Achieving detachment takes practice, to say the least. We do not need to become Buddhists to learn detachment, though this spiritual path offers us some enlightening perspectives.
In “reality”, I encounter many issues that try to lure me down the path of fear. Many times I go – dramatically, habitually and, of course, fearfully! Yet, the more I tune into the higher frequencies of Love and Oneness (rather than the media), the easier I find detachment. Yes, I still may need to call a friend, take a deep breath (or two or three) and do some journaling, but I find detachment to be a powerfully comforting tool.
I would like to note, however, that de-tachment implies that there was an attachment. Some day I would like to master non-attachment so I can avoid the hook altogether. In the meantime, I am practicing the art of surrender.
While some may equate surrendering with dis-empowerment, it actually takes a good deal of courage and faith. Although surrendering may not change or impact the original “problem” or “reality” that prompted our fear, it can help diminish the fear itself. Perhaps we humbly realize that even though we can see a greater picture with detachment, this greater picture is much bigger than our human eyes can behold. We release trying to see it, or understand it. We surrender to it. When we surrender, we move into our fears (not necessarily into the "issue" itself), which gives them less power to frighten us.
In this rapidly shifting reality, we are facing challenges on many levels. Some challenges we handle with grace, while others rattle our fears to the core. The Truth is we are human beings trying to re-member Oneness! Ironically, this process scares us. Hidden deep in our unconsciousness, is a tiny “ego” trying to fight for its own survival. It doesn’t know that when it surrenders to the Oneness – to that which most frightens it – it will expand into a Grandness beyond its wildest dreams! Instead, it is plagued with fear because it doesn’t Trust what Source is trying to bring it.
For the most part, I find that surrender isn’t a one stop completion point; it is often an ebb and flow between my ego and my Soul creating an interesting dance. Sometimes I watch with detachment, other times I join in. What I am learning, however, is that my Soul has much more endurance, smoother steps, and is a better teacher. Plus, it brings me joy to dance with my Soul!
Whether we are dealing with those pesky everyday fears, or the major catastrophes of living in today’s reality that trigger the REALLY Real fears, if we fully and completely surrender to Trust, we may discover what Source is trying to bring us and perhaps realize there was nothing to fear after all.
Are you willing to expand into a Grandness beyond your wildest dreams?
“Surrender,” you hear, as you move toward that which most frightens you…
Maybe you, too, are ready to dance with your Soul.
"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one."
Sometimes the idea of power can be viewed in a negative light, which is completely understandable when we see the numerous ways power has been misused in our world. Many of us love the quote from Jimi Hendrix: “When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” (My heart smiles when I see this on a bumper sticker!) Yet, the power I want to embrace isn’t about power over anything or anyone at all; it is our inner power – our essence – where Love and Power are One.
Whether I’m doing one-on-one Spiritual Mentoring or speaking to large groups, it is my intention to empower others by acknowledging the powerful beings that we all are. It is my vision that we individually and collectively step into our Power as human-spiritual beings; to reunite Love and Power in ourselves as well as in our world.
When I explored the word power there were many descriptions that really stood out for me:
Viewing Power from these perspectives, we can begin to see it in a more neutral, if not positive, light. Using these impressions, I want to further illuminate the significance of Power, as well as offer simple ways to tap into it.
We can become our own official authority by first recognizing that we have the capacity to accept our Power, and that it is our birth right to be powerful beings.
Since we all have the ability to act, we all have Power. Ironically – as well as metaphysically speaking – we often use our Power to produce an effect that makes us believe we don’t have any Power at all! (It’s the dramatic part of the play.) When we get caught up in our everyday lives as human beings living on this dense, three dimensional earth, we can easily forget that we are the one having such power.
When we feel powerless or forget our Power, we can feel that we are not of, relating to, or utilizing strength in any way. This is good, because it is not our personal strength that will align us with true Power anyway. Complete vulnerability and helplessness can often lead to the acknowledgment that “God is my strength.”
Consciously connecting with God/Goddess allows Source to be the means of supplying energy to ourselves. We can align with Source in many ways; we can use meditation, yoga, prayer, breathwork or any other sacred tools that speak to our hearts. The method isn’t important; the intention is.
By establishing a consistent practice – by allowing the time rate at which energy is emitted or transferred to our human selves on a regular basis – we will start to realize that we are the product itself. We don’t simply access, or have, Power; we recognize that we are Power.
Knowing we are Power has great mental and moral efficacy. We can begin to think and act as genuinely Powerful beings. Aligning with Power as us allows us to move with great speed or force through our own awakening process. Effortlessly, we are able to give impetus to greater things; we feel called to be of service to others. As Power, we become a source to supply with power – and especially motive power – for Earth and her inhabitants from which all can receive.
And, when Power is plural – when there are many of us living in Power – we become an order of angels. Working together on Mother Earth with the awakened consciousness of the Heavenly realms – where Love and Power are One – “the world will know peace!”