Being busy has become such a norm in our society that we often find ourselves feeling bad about what we are not doing, rather than taking a larger look at the societal imbalances. Whether we are students, employees, entrepreneurs, or at-home parents, there are usually more to-do’s on our list than there is time to do them. So we try to adapt with less sleep, more caffeine, synchronizing calendars, task-managing apps, coordinated carpools and anything else that might help us get things done more efficiently. And, for those of us on a spiritually conscious path, we squeeze in a morning meditation or rush off to unwind at a yoga class at the end of the day. In our efforts to seek balance, we sprinkle in the rest and relaxation time, but rarely feel comfortable examining our deeper impulses to keep on going.
As our bodies become more exhausted, our souls begin to seek refuge. But are we really ready to release the busyness?
There are many reasons we chase time and fill our calendars. Beyond keeping a roof over our heads and bellies filled, we want to enjoy certain comforts, please others, do the right thing, and fit in with our communities. Letting go of the have-to’s can seem detrimental to these fundamental needs and desires.
Thankfully, we don’t have to become monastery monks to slow down. Though not always comfortable, we can learn to loosen our stronghold on our perceived obligations. Becoming aware of our essential ties to why we do what we do is an instrumental part of making a change.
If you outline your average daily and weekly obligatory tasks, whether in a list or schedule format, you get a clearer picture of just how busy you are and why you’ve been longing for more breathing room. As well, what if you inserted the mound of other “shoulds” that you don’t have time for, but feel guilty about not doing? Yes, go ahead and pencil those in, too.
Once your busy life is charted in front of you, meditate, journal and gently observe your underpinning.
Getting adjusted to a slower, more simplified lifestyle isn’t quite so easy. Our needs, beliefs, loyalties and fears can be so powerful that breaking free can cause inner anguish as well as judgment from others, especially if your change in commitment affects them.
Resistance is futile, yet we all seem to do it. Where do you resist? Most of us resist stepping into our glory – our Perfection. And, by doing so, we create patterns that continue to pave our roads with uncomfortable asphalt, irritating speed bumps or ridiculously steep grades. Perhaps our well-worn paths need some major work and a detour sign has directed us down the backroads of life.
Nearly all of the repeating “obstacles” in our lives are simply areas where we have forgotten our grandness.Many spiritual teachings use the word “lessons” to imply that we are here to learn. Sure, the human part of our being may need to learn a skill or two, but the spiritual truth is most of our “issues” haunt us because we have lost touch with our essence. Thus, it is not so much learning that we need, it is re-collecting.
Whether we use the word “essence,” “soul,” “Truth,” “Light”, “grandness” or “divinity” doesn’t matter. What matters is that this core part of our being is perfect and whole and is trying to reveal itself to ourselves and to the world. And, since it is eternal, it is more a matter of re-membering – purely merging our everyday selves with our Perfection.
In these times of awakening, our soul’s desire to align its Perfection with our humanness is demanding our attention. When we resist the process of this integration, or ignore it altogether, we experience the Universe reflecting back to us this very resistance.
Earlier this year, when I offered Akashic Records readings at a Sacramento Healing Arts Festival, nearly every client asked me, “What should I be doing with my life? What is my soul’s purpose?” At a time when so many people are spiritually waking up, many of us are finding an inner drive to know more about what we “should” be doing as well as a desire to be on our “path.” Though my specific insights were as unique as the person asking the question, I definitely see a collective, common answer for all of us.
When I first began working in the Akashic Records, I, too, would ask questions with the wordshould in it. Within no time, I learned that “SHould” is simply could with “SHame” attached to it. We ask "should” questions because we want to be doing the “right” thing, not only because we are noble, willing people, but because we somehow believe that if we did what we should be doing, then we would have joyful (i.e. “rewarding”) lives for doing so. These beliefs, however, can be rooted in duality (good/bad, right/wrong), which actually keep us bound to the energy of self-judgment and shame, which is obviously not a very joyful foundation.
If we release the concept of should and recognize the neutrality of could, we can begin to free ourselves from the shame game. Imagine releasing your concerns over not doing the “right” thing or being on your “right” path because you allow yourself to stop feeling wrong. Trusting you are always on your “right” path because it is “right” where you are can bring a sigh of relief to your heart and mind. When we accept what is, as it is now – without shame, judgment or worry about what isn’t – we more easily call forth joy, compassion and acceptance from and for ourselves and others.
Our lives are full of possibilities!... or shall I say, coulds. There is no rule anywhere (except in our minds) that we should do anything at all. Within all of these possibilities, however, we could choose to live in joy. Joy resonates at “high frequencies” which feels good to our bodies and souls. Perhaps this is what we yearn for when we seek our “Highest Good,” or perhaps we want to feel a sense of belonging or purpose.
I will not argue that contribution and service aren’t satisfying and helpful virtues. Indeed, these are quite admirable aspects of our life experience. I will point out, however, that both the need for belonging and fulfilling a purpose are fear and ego-driven. Our personalities want to feel part of something greater and grander than ourselves because we don’t feel adequately great or grand within ourselves.
The idea that we don’t have a “Soul’s Purpose” actually scares many of us. We base our sense of self worth on these deeply rooted beliefs. Not only does the idea of purpose imply that we should be “doing” something, conversely it implies that if we don’t fulfill it, we are somehow not “doing” our part (or are possibly on the “wrong” path)! Thus, we must not be worthy!
You ARE the part – the purpose – and you are actually the path! Your soul is worthy and whole in this very moment; your human aspect is simply trying to re-member this Truth! Each of us could choose to re-member that wholeness with joy – or not – but I will say that joy not only feels good, it creates a clearer, more beautiful path to experience while on our journey.
The drive to unveil our purpose, then, is actually our desire to reveal our True Self – this is what is known as our Spiritual Awakening. Once we awaken to the Truth that we ARE worthy – simply by BEING – and accept it inwardly, we can more easily live outwardly in alignment with this Universal Truth.
Can you imagine a world where each of us behaves as if we are undeniably worthy just because we exist? From this basis, contribution and service become authentic, joyful expressions of our True Selves, rather than shoulds along a path that hopes to prove our worthiness to ourselves and others.
As you awaken, listen to your inner urge to find your heart’s desire, then reflect on the wise words of Ram Dass:
Sometimes we spend all of our time and energy trying to "manifest" something that we really want only to discover all those "laws of attraction" repelling our very desires! What is one to do when the tools of manifestation are broken? If we do our part to follow spiritual laws, then why doesn't Spirit abide by them as well?
From the simplistic human experience, we can often fall into the realm of victimhood. "Life is so unfair! Things never go my way!" The law of attraction can be like "Big Brother" watching and listening to every energetic thing we feel, think and say, then abundantly showering us with our greatest fears.
Yet, as we mature and recognize our power as human-spiritual beings, we can begin to realize some of our affects on our reality. As we become more conscious of what we feel, think and say, we can make more conscious choices in our lives and thus "attract" more of the things we desire. The ability to create our reality builds our confidence and life becomes a bit more joyful and easy.
This, unfortunately, is just a phase in the initiation process as we fully awaken to our grandness! In other words, once we have "mastered" this level of manifesting, we will be ready for losing our powers once again. Many of us are now experiencing this newest challenge on our journey.
We likely have spent countless hours visualizing, affirming, and even "knowing" that what we want (money, a perfect relationship, a joyful career) is ours NOW only to manifest an abundance of frustration, disappointment and a lack of faith. As our finger tries desperately to touch the object of our desire, it slides away like mercury (whom, by the way, is a messenger!).
What has happened in this evolutionary phase is that we have allowed our ego to call the shots. We have confused manifesting from the ego's perspective with manifesting from our soul's perspective. At this juncture, it is time to learn the art of allowing.
When we are continuously denied that which we think we want - especially once we have "mastered manifesting" - feelings of failure and unworthiness arise. This is good, since our newest "lesson" is to truly embrace and know our unconditional worthiness. It also gives us a chance to renew our faith in life, in Spirit and in ourselves.
When we repeatedly get denied that which we think we want, this oftentimes leads to a reevalution of that which is vitally important in our lives. We begin to learn the virtue of surrender, willingly or not, and acceptance becomes a stepping stone.
Our ego has a chance to soften and our soul's wisdom will remind us that we are co-creators, not the One "in charge." In fact, this grasping energy of controlling everything is part of what we are ready to release.
Allowing can be a challenge, indeed, but so was the notion of manifesting at one point on our human-spiritual journey. If you think about it carefully, however, it is actually quite simple because all you need to do is allow and let your soul and the Universe work together to bring you what is buried deep in your heart - your true self - where joy and ease reside.
Is there a reason for the negative experiences I am going through?
If my life is hard, does this mean I'm not spiritual enough or on the right path?
What are the metaphysical meanings behind my physical reality?
What's the purpose to all of this?
We all want some kind of "spiritual answers" that make us at least feel okay about our uncomfortable situations. Yet, regardless of what we feel, believe, or experience, we are WHOLE, PERFECT BEINGS RIGHT NOW. This is the "lesson" so to speak.
Metaphysically speaking, we choose life simply for it's experience. We set up parameters, have "ideas" and intentions, let's say, and then we are born. As our lives unfold, we experience the fullness of being by experiencing a spectrum of thoughts, feelings, challenges, blessings, and so on. We react, act, expand, contract, sleep, eat and love.
As humans, there are certain "agreements" or "rules" we have accepted - like we really do have to eat and breathe if we want to keep our bodies. Yet, we are both human and spiritual, so we instinctively play with the idea of spirit with our human experiences, and our own "remembering" of this aspect.
To really feel human, we take on duality - in thoughts and experiences - some taking this on to a greater degree than others. Yet, the only way to experience duality is through judgment. Again, this is perfectly human. We judge ourselves, others, life, experiences, EVERYTHING. And, it's actually something that has served us all of our lives.
However, as we "shift" into a higher, more awakened consciousness, we are "collapsing" into the experience of Oneness, where the illusion of duality merges into wholeness.
So what experiences are we having that reflect this shift in the collective consciousness?
Our own judgments of life, ourselves and our beliefs are bubbling to the surface during these changing times. This can be quite challenging and even painful.
Therefore, I simply suggest to breathe. To allow yourself to have the doubts, the insecurities and feel what you are feeling. Breathe into the moment. As your fear arises, if you can be with it, you will find it will settle down and disintegrate. You'll find that you were fully present with you in that moment, and thus allowed yourself to experience life as you. My guess is that at that moment, the moment after the fear faded, you felt bliss and contentment and realized that your physical reality didn't really matter... at least not in that moment.
So, little by... oh, maybe it's brick by... or wait... perhaps it's major issue by major issue, you will begin to experience more and more of the bliss as you experience more and more of the NOW. It takes practice, patience and willingness, but it's actually all there is.
YOU ARE THE ALL THAT IS. You are simply re-membering it. You are whole, holy and worthy - ALWAYS.